Yoga and AcroYoga advocate to shift perspective in order to get a richer view on life. A shift of focus is also what Shefali Tsabary, one of my parenting heroines suggests when it comes to parenting.
"The conscious parenting approach is true game changer. By shifting the focus away from the child and onto the parents inner transformation, it holds the potential to awaken families from deep within" and takes off the pressure of me;
I tried getting up at 5am to do my practice (Pranayama, Asana, Meditation) and then just didn't make it through the day. I tried doing my practice in the morning, only to get caught in household chores and lunch prep, I tried it in the afternoon, mostly caught in logistics and catching whatever is falling through my own and my family members unrealistic time estimation, I tried doing it the night... falling asleep in childs pose before the warm up!
Now "awakening" happens within my family and is not "done" by me doing my spiritual practice individually. I still miss Pranayama and Asana as an undisturbed self-practice for emotional hygiene and self development, but somehow with Dr. Tsabary's approach I'm more relaxed because I am doing my inner work!
Suddenly it's more ok that I do what I can. A sun salutation before brushing teeth, a breathing exercise while breastfeeding, a handstand on the playground, meditation in the car for a few minutes when the little one fell asleep in the backseat. I realise that my parenting can now be the Asana and my verbal interactions can be the Pranayama: "Integrating this shift of focus in our daily lives is far from easy for us parents. As it turns the mirror on all the ways our reactions to our children are unhealthy, it challenges us to explore our unconscious inner workings and confront aspects of us that lurk in the shadows. By not allowing us to rest on "how things were done in my childhood", we are forced to discover new ways to relate to our children, moment after moment, handcrafting our responses to match the child before us."
Let me introduce to you my Bibles for this work. Treasure chests for inspiration, guidance and reassurance:
Dr. Shefali Tsabary:
The Parent's Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents
My all time heroine: Brené Brown
The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion, and Connection