Declutter: Stripping layers next level

It’s been quiet on my side. My hands are full. Full with a gorgeous baby, a beautiful pre-schooler and piles and piles and never ending piles of things which seemingly come out of no where.

Usually this time of the year I’m somewhere extraordinary. A place where sun is a matter of course, mangoes at hand, coconut water to hydrate, yoga on a roof top, a daily swim in the sea, meditation as a daily practice. Reduced electronic consumption and the outdoor lifestyle gave me annually a sense of health, rejuvenation and with all the other yogis around me it felt like I’m

A) fitting in and therefor doing the right thing
B) doing my practice and therefor stripping the layers of who I think I am to come closer to Self

In America, Joshua Becker writes in his minimalist Blog, twice as many material goods are consumed as there where 50 years ago. Over the same period, the size of the average American home has nearly tripled, and today that average home contains about 300,000 items.

I don’t live in America, yet I can tell there are very similar tendencies over here. We moved from a 60 sqm home to 124 sqm home exactly one year ago. When we moved I felt I have cut down our belongings in half. Having this time now to really see how filled our cupboards and closets are, I had this deep longing to comb through all those things and make space. Space for … life!

“Does it spark joy?”

Mary Kondo asks to answer the question: keep or throw?. And this question for me was a great place to start the process, Lea in Kindergarden, Finnja sleeping or crawling (happily enough she isn’t in the collecting-EVERYTHING-from-rocks-to-hairbands yet), husband’s out of the house. A perfect set up to unpack it all.

Everything out. Completely out of its box! Yet while combing through those things in the back corners of those deep closets it hit me fast: This is about something way deeper here.

“The next time you decide to uncluttered your life and clean up your space, start with the things that are truly useless:

Like regrets, shame, anger.”

- Sandra Kring

Not only money, also unused potential. 4 Years ago I purchased an amazing juicer. Super stereotype I used it 5 times and never again. I thought I sell it, yet when it was out of its box and ready to use Lea and I had amazing time juicing and experimenting and chose to keep it and celebrate juicing 2 times a week. It was such an enlightening experience to be in the kitchen with my girls, fruits, vegetables, colours, flavours. We made a juice, almond butter, coconut cream almond-coconut milk… all in one go. No shopping, just sifting through our stocks.

While I still pack packages shipping out sold stuff it became a habit having a second look when opening a cupboard or a drawer. Often I take out something I haven’t used in a long time. I make it a gift, take it to recycling, sell it, throw it.
I feel so content with the things I kept that I have no desire for purchases which makes us more frequently go to the forest instead of the store.

If there’s a need coming up I let myself sit with it for a while and test it and mostly check for second hand options.

As I uncluttered my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.
- Dr. Wayne Dyer

So now, there is more space. And it all feels a bit more spacious. And spaciousness is a deep longing of my soul. It also brings up the calling of my soul and therefor makes me reflect upon and deal with decision that are exciting, yet not always comfortable.

If not to say: Damn scary.

* Where do I want to live with my family? What does that mean for me? What for my extended family?
* What type of education will I choose for my children? How will that shape their future?
* What’s the most important values I want to trade in my family and how am I trading them?

"Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor- it’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living."

Peter Walsh

How do you keep an intimate connection to life? I'm curious and excited to get inspired!