Birth wishes

Birth wishes

Birth is one of the last mystical and deeply spiritual events in our modern, institutionalised life. The moment the universe hold it's breath to exhale and expel a new soul hearthside. It couldn't be further from a linear, or planable event.

Acknowledging the uncertainty which comes with birth woman can and SHOULD certainly voice wishes and desires. We spend days, weeks, months to plan a wedding and we're not shy to spend a fortune on it. Knowing from myself and having accompanied woman through their Mettamorphosis into Motherhood I would like to encourage you to sit down and flush out the scenery that gets your ANS (autonomic nervous system) to light up and wrap you in a warm blanket of emotional comfort. However that might look for you.

Let me share with you here how this looked for me and may it inspire you to write your own, being true to who you are and what you like and how you feel held and respected and listened to and loved and beautiful and all the good things which help you to let go and surrender into the flow of life.

How Ina May Gaskin states: "As the baby comes in, the baby comes out" the scenery might look and feel similar to how you like to intimately come together with your partner...

Birth wishes

What you see on this list, any time!
What you don’t see on this list, DON’T OFFER IT!!!

Prior to birth:

  • Help make a shelf in the bedroom to store baby items
  • Hold space for me so I can: knit blanket for the baby and crochet a hat
  • Have frozen spinach in the freezer
  • Be prepped for Lotus birth: A bowl, 1kg of salt, A LOT OF herbs (rosemary, thyme, sage...)
  • Music station loaded and set up
  • Sofa freshly dressed and lights installed in all of the apartment
  • Fridge, Freezer, Drawers: Full of good fresh food and super foods: Hemp seeds, Blueberries, Raspberries, Mango, Almond Butter,
  • Read: The birth Partner. It’s on my iPad.

For Delivery:

  • Inform circle of sisters (what’s app group which I have already set up): Light a candle and send prayers!
  • Space
  • Self determination
  • Candles - a lot!
  • Flowers - a lot!
  • Aromatherapy: Frankincense in Diffusor and Lavender at hand for eventual use
  • Leave me alone, so I can connect to my wisdom
  • Call midwife when contractions are 3min apart and as intense that speaking is very tricky
  • Water, feed me through a straw, offer me... often!
  • Carry on with your joyful being, it helps me so much!
  • I don’t progress? Ask me what’s going on inside.
  • Listen, don’t fix!
  • Follow, don’t discuss!
  • I might take A LOT OF TIME. Please be patient.
  • When in doubt: Call Kerys through Skype!
  • Old Towels and Blankets place them all around!
  • Check Gail Tully: Spinning babies for: Side lying release and forward leaning inversion. You might need to instruct me and remind me to use it!
  • Make sure Lea is 100% taken care of, I need you at my side.
  • A safe and secure pool in which I can float
  • A structure from which we can hang a sling to hang in and hang a baby swing / lea in a sling let me walk, sleep, roll on a peanut ball
  • Play my prepped playlist on Spotify: Labour day

For after birth:

  • Allow me to rest
  • Make me a big can of hot chocolate with: Hot rice milk, sweetened with my mum’s honey, cinnamon, cardamom
  • Aromatherapy: rosemary in the diffusor
  • Support when I like to move
  • Fresh juices
  • Soups
  • Fresh salads
  • Simple and organic food with lots of warming herbs
  • Change the bed sheets every 4 days for the first 12 days and wash with Lave
  • Chinese herbs to restore kidneys and blood
  • Take me to the sea and allow me to swim
  • Give super a lot of attention to Lea and include her big time
  • Take extra space and time to allow Lea to throw tantrums if she needs to adapt to the new situation. No blame, just hold space, everyone needs to adapt to the new situation!
  • Allow me sun, I love it so much!!!
  • Encourage me to take care of my pelvic floor: oils, exercise, rest, swim
  • Forest, lakes and outdoor time are super important for me, please help me organise it help me with: * laundry* cooking* cleaning
  • Please keep the flat clean
  • Wrap my belly and help me make space and time so I can care for my core
  • When warm weather, make me loads of virgin mojito: lemon, mint, sparkling water, crushed ice and put my bamboo straw in it